Many of my clients say, I don't want to be the employee anymore. I've been an employee for 10, 20 or 30 years of my life.
Let me tell you - This should be the fuel for you that's driving you.
It's that pain that will force the action and right now use it like - I am DONE with this.
I am no longer tolerating being an employee and let that be the driving force for you.
Do you want to go back to that job? Is that what you want more of? Is that what you want to stay with? Where you want to be 10 years from now? HECK NO! Let's do something about it!
So then they say, I'm scared. Okay. Amy, I'm scared. I'm scared of what's out in front of me and I get overwhelmed.
Overwhelmed. It's just another form of fear, right?
Because you're afraid, afraid you’re not going to get it all. Be able to do it all. Do it the way you’re supposed to be doing it.
Are you going to be focused on being more afraid of all of that's out there on the uncertainty of what lies ahead when you should probably be more afraid of still being in this job 10 years from now and nothing else has changed in your life?
Isn't that it? Isn't it? If we're being honest, isn't that more scary? Your situation has gotten worse and still hasn't changed 10 years from now, 2030, right? That’s a much worse situation!
That’s where I think anger and fear can be a good thing. It can be this compelling force - because I can feel it when my clients say - I’m done with my 9 to 5.
Use that fear and anger to propel you forward because that fear is stronger than the fear you have of stepping outside of your comfort zone in this business.
So now every day is a choice. It's a decision, Am I going to go the path of staying in my current situation and be here in next 10 years or am I going to go towards my dreams?
Because I am choosing to not get outside of my comfort zone.
I am choosing overwhelm, which by the way it's a choice.
Because look, there's some safety in that, like you kind of get to get off the hook because like, well, it doesn't appear that way. But’s it’s easy to just say, I'm overwhelmed, therefore I won't do anything. We don't actually do anything in overwhelm. There's, there's no act. When you feel overwhelmed, you don't take any action.
So, in a lot of ways it's like this protection mechanism. Well, I'm overwhelmed so I'm not going to do that thing that scares me - is kind of what's happening subconsciously. Right?
But behind that, now you know what's on the line, it's 10 more years of this previous life that you're like, hell no, we won't go. Right?
And if you choose, that can be extremely powerful driver. That's what's on the line and that's the choice moment by moment.
That's a lot of what drove me was I was in my 9 to 5 and I knew I couldn’t be there another year. I cried every single day driving to work. That fueled me because I was like, something's got to change. This is not the rest of my life. And for the rest of you, something else that can fuel you is being reminded of your mortality.
Something to kind of think about - we don't have forever.
We're all gonna kick the bucket eventually and we don't know if it's tomorrow. You know, there's just no certainty in that. And so we just always assume, because there was a today, yesterday, there was a today that we assume there'll be a tomorrow - you're making an assumption, you're making a big assumption, right? And so we're like, well, you know, there's always the future and we just put off our life and our dreams onto the future.
And when I find myself not stepping up and playing as big as I can from where I know how to, I remind myself of my mortality. If this were the last week I were alive, would I have said I played all out or would I be reserving some.
What are you reserving it for?
What are you holding?
What are you waiting for?
What are you conserving yourself for?
Or are you saying, can I just give it all I got this week?
And even when you're like, okay, I'll give it all I got, you do it and you're like, I could have totally given more, which is always another. That's a funny concept.