Breaking up is hard to do.
There are tears. There are moments when you try to talk yourself out of it.
You tell yourself that it’s for the better, that you’ll grow. But you know that leaving will mean enduring some heartache for a time.
No, I’m not talking about your first love. I’m talking about your job. I’m talking about the difficult decision to let go of a job that you love, and move on to the next phase of your career.
It might be one of the hardest decisions of your life.
After years of being in the corporate world, changing jobs or changing companies, you finally found a job that you loved. It was interesting, exciting, and you loved your co-workers like a family. But over time, the shine wore off, and you found yourself feeling stuck, bored and itching for a change.
And that is perfectly okay.
Listen to your gut. Though you may feel an overwhelming mix of emotions – excitement, guilt, fear, relief – no one knows what you need better than you. But for those still on the fence, here are three tell-tale signs that it might be time to let go and move on.
Three signs to look for:
1. You’re just not that into it anymore.
You used to practically skip into the office at 8 a.m. every morning, ready to rock the world with your enthusiasm, passion, and drive. You stayed late when it was needed, you took on extra projects, and you soaked up every possible learning opportunity.
But now… you wake up dreading another day at the office. You roll into work at 8:15 (or later!) every day. When your boss offers you a new project, all you can think about is how this is going to add to your already full plate.
When I started feeling like this at my current job, I immediately knew that it was time for a change. I barely recognized myself. I was unhappy, annoyed by every little thing that happened at work, and dreaded being there. I knew it was time to find the fire again.
2. You start looking for other opportunities.
One of the most obvious signs that it’s time for you to move on is when you start actively exploring other options. I’m not talking casually searching – I’m talking careful, deliberate scouting for specific opportunities “just to see what’s out there.”
I knew I didn’t want to work for another company. I wanted something that I built and was proud of. I wanted to personally impact the lives of others. I just needed to figure out how.
3. You start feeling resentful.
Once upon a time, you loved taking on new responsibilities. Now you just feel the resentment of an overburdened plate. You used to grin and bear it when faced with unpleasant or monotonous tasks, but now they cause you to feel frustrated and irritated.
You start envying your friends who enjoy their jobs, wondering when you lost the spark, and how you can get it back.
You become unhappy and your performance declines. Even though people on the outside may think that you’re still doing a fantastic job, you know that you are no longer giving 100 percent.
I’ve been there.
I tried to resist the feeling. I felt guilty about leaving my boss, and was worried about the work that my other colleagues would have to pick up in my absence. But then I realized something: I am worth nothing to them if I am miserable.
So I did a favor to myself, my significant other, and the company I worked for.
I put in my two week notice.
I have never felt more light or free than I did on that day. Anyone who has given their notice to pursue entrepreneurship knows the exact feeling I’m talking about. Was I scared? Heck yes! But it gave me the freedom to explore and grow my new online business. I was no longer working to build someone else’s dream, I was finally starting to build my own.